You are Beautiful {Beauty is confidence in a perfect creation with many anomalies}

Growing up I honestly never felt beautiful. Seriously, not as in I said that because I wanted people to confirm that I was “wrong” but I seriously looked in the mirror and thought “ugly.” Yet, isn’t that the truth with most of us?

(Not me but a beautiful bride from a mountain wedding I photographed)

(Not me but a beautiful bride from a mountain wedding I photographed)

How truly devastating this is.

While I don’t want this to be my story of finally feeling beautiful, but rather sharing my realities that helped me come to this place in my late twenties where I can say I finally feel beautiful.

I know many people say not feeling beautiful is a lack of self confidence or comparing yourself too much to others, which I did all struggle with in my early life, but I had so much words of affirmation around me it was a bit crazy I struggled with this lie. No joke, my dad called us “gorgeous” as nicknames, and constantly told my sister and I how beautiful we were. Even with my grandpa everywhere we went everyone would tell him how beautiful his granddaughters were. And to top that off I had a boyfriend in high school who would seriously stare at me and just telling me how beautiful he thought I was. Yet, even after all of that I never felt it to the core.

Even after being married I still didn’t feel this, which so many of us women hope in having the security of a man in our lives would help us truly feel beautiful.

Not me but a beautiful bride from a mountain wedding I photographed

Not me but a beautiful bride from a mountain wedding I photographed

It wasn’t until after I had my daughter that I started to believe I was beautiful. I read an article about how daughters grow up believe what their mother’s believe about their beauty: that if you look in the mirror and think “fat, ugly, etc.” it will come out to your daughter. And the first moment I gazed into my daughter’s eyes I knew I couldn’t do that to her. I didn’t want her to grow up with that ache in her heart that she was incomplete.

Me and my daughter when she was a few months old, photo credit my husband

Me and my daughter when she was a few months old, photo credit my husband

I don’t know what it was exactly but from then on I stopped feeling ugly. To be frank, I stopped looking in the mirror a lot, because, well, becoming a mother you truly don’t have anytime for yourself. Yet, at the core I think it was taking my eyes off myself, focusing on raising my daughter and truly believing in God creating us to be beautiful.

Having grown a human being inside of me and seeing her truly thinking “beautiful, this is competition,” I had no logic left not to think the way God made me wasbeautiful and is. That now this saggy skin I bear from caring for a child with my body isn’t saggy skin it is war wounds. I’ve fought to keep a life alive and that is beautiful.  This body God created for me is beautiful – flawed, but beautiful.

My most current picture of me and my daughter, photo credit my husband

My most current picture of me and my daughter, photo credit my husband

I say we redefine beauty for our generation. And not that “beauty is an inward trait” crap because every girl wants to feel beautiful on the outside too. I say we say:

Beauty is confidence in a perfect creation with many anomalies.

A photo of a recent bride as she was tossing her hair in between photos.

A photo of a recent bride as she was tossing her hair in between photos.

So, today, I want to encourage you all to encourage every girl you know that she is beautiful, just the way she is. So let’s celebrate today for a creator who perfectly creates. Celebrate a creator who says He dwells in us, despite our imperfections, and calls it “good.” Let us celebrate that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.

I pray you believe it.

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Hey, I’m Emmy, the main voice behind Celebrate Again. Here you’ll find ways to live the Celebrate Again lifestyle. I want to help you to embody the joy of life by learning to Celebrate Again in everything from the practice of intentional breath to taking on major life events. I believe your life should be full and be what you make it. Whether you’re joining me to plan your wedding, celebrate an anniversary, adventure around the USA, stay connected to your beloved, practice yoga or whip up a plant-based recipe, I’ve got you covered, friend.
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