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woman near a dead tree and lake telling her story about when her husbad said he was no longer attracted to her

When my husband told me I was no longer attractive this is what I did

He told me he no longer found me attractive. Eleven years of marriage, my best friend, and what I thought would be my life partner, father to my daughter, who’d been with me through five moves, three states, epic adventures, a lifetime of stories, highs and lows, and a chronic illness journey.


The pandemic was still raging, and it hit me then as he intuited, “but maybe someone else will.”

Spoiler Alert: he was right.

woman playing near alpine lake after being told she was no longer attractive

What I desired, what I longed for, a deep, passionate romance, wasn’t something he was available for. I asked him point-blank one day. His reply, “As friends, that sounds nice.”

Ever since I was a little girl, I always wanted to experience wild romance, you know, the run into your arms, gaze at you from a distance, madly in love even after decades.

Hi Love, I’m Lumalia Armstrong. I’m so glad you’re here. You see, I even made a whole career out of wild romances, photographing weddings, couples, and working with them in connection from a body level as I became a wellness practitioner.

Yet here I was in a situation where what I deeply longed for didn’t match what I had.

I hadn’t become the woman who has a wild romance. I had to step into MY PASSION again, not pleasing him.

woman walking down to an ocean and sea rocks after being told she was no longer attractive

So I decided that year to let myself fall madly in love with life.

With myself,

with every ounce of life.

Even still sick, I let myself go explore without my husband,

float in rivers,

go nude for the first time,

live the magical life I’d always seen in media,

my clients’ lives, but never let myself actually have.

woman with arms out stretched near alpine lake after being told she was no longer attractive

But he wasn’t the problem. My life wasn’t the problem.

I didn’t feel safe enough, strong enough, and like I COULD have what I wanted, I could have my passions and desires.

And for a long time, neither did my body, so neither did my reality.

But when I changed both, my relationship with my body shifted from viewing it as a beautiful temple to a machine for maintenance and use. When I changed how I showed up in my daily life, my reality changed.

I met the love of my life,

and my life became a walking miracle;

illnesses disappeared,

I felt confident for the first time in my life,

and I knew anything was truly possible.

I didn’t do it alone, though.

I had community.

I had mentors.

I had people living the LIFE I wanted to model after, to learn from, to grow with.

And now I’m inviting you, %FIRSTNAME%, into that journey too.

To remember your desires are holy, to remember the magic of life, and see you, TOO, can step into your wild passion with Everyday Magic.

Join me on a  FREE (until August 28) 21-day experience where we ditch just wishing on “one day” and turn our passions into realities.

I cannot wait for this to be after Everyday Magic

  • “It felt light and supported and spacious.” – Katie Anne
  • “I felt a strong sense of calm safety, safety in expression in sharing.” Jason
  • “It felt good and very playful.” – Peter
  • “I felt a good closeness together, like building a future.” – Peter

This isn’t just magic for you. This is magic for your partnerships, your families, your friendships.

Because when you are in the bliss of life, EVERYONE around you benefits.

Here’s the catch: Everyday Magic is free for a short period of time.

But at some point between now and August 28, a price tag will be added.

Then, the price increases at random until this experience closes at a $555 price tag. Because yes, it WILL be worth that much.

If you’re ready to taste this level of passion, bliss, joy in YOUR life, I cannot wait to take you on this EPIC journey with me. 

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About the Author

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Hey, I’m Lumalia, photographer, author, certified somatic movement yoga teacher, and the main voice behind Celebrate Again. I call myself a connection architect because I have a deep passion for guiding us all to fall back in love with life through states of beauty, but many of us are far from feeling at home in our own bodies, so we seek to find safety in others. 

Yikes, that’s scary, I know; I did that for three decades, too, until I returned home to myself.

I’m so excited to share with you all I’ve learned and this beautiful journey back home to what makes you absolutely stunning just because you are alive today.

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